A young lady recommended the following solution to the singles problem: Place them randomly into couples - ensuring they are compatible in age, background, and outlook, and then ship each pair to their very own desert island. Leave them together for a year. Then pick them up. "You will find," she said, "that in most cases they will want to stay together for ever."

This thinking is implied in the explanation of the newly wed husbands army exemption. This law is to ensure that the man sees his new wife as much as possible in the first year of their marriage. In getting to know her in all types of situations, both pleasant and unpleasant, he is slowly adjusting his personality to fit in to hers, deepening the relationship, and working towards the Torah ideal of becoming 'one' and part of each other. This helps to ensure that he is not tempted to pay attention to other women.

In the desert island situation, both rely on one another to survive. The man may provide by hunting, gathering edibles growing in the wild, and building a safe shelter from the elements. The woman may cook the food and make clothes out of naturally growing fibers. They thus give to one another all the time in order to survive. By working together for their mutual survival needs, they get closer and more empathic, to a degree that after a year they find themselves so much part of each other that they would never consider anyone else for a marriage partner.